How To Text A Girl Playing Hard To Get (From Opener To Date)

In this guide, we are gonna show you how to handle texting a girl who is playing hard to get. And what to do if she says she’s “busy”. To do this we are going to breakdown a full text convo from opener to date so you can see exactly how it’s done.

And here is a photo of the girl for anyone who is curious

The backstory here is that one of our mastermind members matched with this cute asian girl. Her bio was a massive list of her preferences and had like 20 things that would be a dealbreaker. She also mentioned she does not want a one night stand. Here is what happened next:

His opener playfully references her bio, which is essentially just a list of checkboxes. Some guys would make the mistake of trying to qualify themselves and explain why they meet her standards. He avoids this mistake and does the polar opposite which is instead to make her qualify.

Using the world “almost” is important as well because she immediately wants to know why she doesn’t qualify completely. He responds by once again encouraging her to qualify. She doesn’t do that, but she does start hinting at a date which is also good. He rewards her enthusiasm and also suggests the date.

She tries to reframe by saying that she will “fit him in” but it doesn’t really matter at this point. He does the right thing by not getting himself into a pointless frame battle and focuses on moving things forward. 

She agrees to Wednesday but her answer is a bit weak. I might have responded to this by saying “might be?” but he takes it as a “yes” and tries to lock in the time. She doesn’t respond so he uses a simple takeaway. These are great for when a girl is not texting you back

It turns out that she was never super serious about Wednesday. The good thing is that she asked to reschedule, which indicates at least some interest.

He does the right thing by investing less than her and focusing on the date. Here she responds with more flakiness. The way to handle this type of thing would be with persistence, but at the same time not coming off as needy. The vibe you want to give is “I’d like to go on a date with you but if it doesn’t happen I don’t care.”

Here is how I would personally respond to her last message “Oh that doesn’t require too much bravery. I have a feeling it would be a Saturday night very well spent.”

As you can see, he responded with something different. She is still definitely investing in the conversation which is a good thing. But at the same time in the last message she keeps trying to “prize frame” herself. It’s important to never fall into this frame. If you do, she will keep making things more and more difficult for you.

In response to here last text, i might have said “I do my best “impressing”, over a nice bottle of wine” Basically just poke fun at the premise and redirect towards the date again.

Clearly she does not fuck around when it comes to bus seats. In the last message, he makes the right play by seeing if he can push the date to be sooner. Waiting that long would have most likely resulted in a flake ultimately anywayss so you might as well go for it.

She kind of sidesteps his proposal. She doesn’t commit to a date soon. But she also leaves that option open for herself. When you are at this point, there’s definitely an element of luck. How horny is she? How adventurous is she feeling? 

This is also a great example of what to do when your instagram sucks. This is how you would want to get out of giving the girl your IG (if your IG is decent then I recommend giving it to her, but at the same time say you don’t use it much and get her number).

Good news. She texts him saying she is free. After that it is mostly logistics. However, let’s quickly analyze her last text. She insists on him taking her to some Mexican restaurant that she wants to try. The last thing you wanna do is to agree to this. You want to politely propose other plans, which you will see in the next screenshot.

Pro Tip: Always avoid food dates until you’ve slept with the girl. Food makes people sleepy so girl is less likely to be in a sexual move. In addition, it sets the wrong frame. I will go out to eat with my girlfriend all the time, but never with a random girl

He does a great job doing what I described. He is polite but firm, offering up to meet for drinks instead. Sometimes the solution will have to be a compromise. So he agrees to meet her at that place but just for drinks. As long as its close to your place, then that’s totally fine.

This is pretty much all logistics so nothing to really dissect here. Here is the translation for anyone who is curious he says “It seems like a plan, thanks beautiful” and she replies “Perfect. Until tomorrow handsome”

They meet for drinks, he flirts and banters, and gets her back to his place where they hookup. Mission accomplished!

Conclusion 

 This is a great example of how to seduce a girl who is playing hard to get. I’ve encountered this before many times myself. You want to be persistent, but also avoid coming off as needy at all costs. You need to know when to say no and when to compromise. This can all be learned with experience. 

Don’t be intimidated by all the text game that I broke down. With practice this all becomes automatic. For more texting advice, check out my how to text a girl guide

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