What To Text After “Hey” (8 Replies That Actually Work)
What Should You Text After “Hey”?
If you’re wondering what to text after “hey”, the key is to avoid replying with another boring greeting like “hey what’s up.”
That type of response usually leads to a predictable small-talk conversation that quickly dies.
Instead, the best response to “hey” is something that shows personality, creates curiosity, or gives her something interesting to respond to.
For example:
“Hey trouble, how’s your day going”
“Hey, you seem like potentially my type”
“Hey, im curious about something”
Messages like these break the small-talk pattern and make it much easier for the conversation to actually go somewhere. Below are 8 good replies you can send after “hey.”
Why “Hey What’s Up” Usually Fails
Replies like that fail because they usually lead to boring interview-style conversations.
Example:
Her: hey
You: hey what’s up
Her: not much
You: same
At this point, the conversation is boring, and the girl loses interest and moves on. As you can imagine, women have A LOT of options on dating apps, and you need to catch her attention in order to succeed
So instead of continuing the small-talk loop, your reply should introduce something playful, curious, or slightly teasing. The majority of guys aren’t doing this, and so you will stand out
Here are 8 replies that consistently get better responses than “hey what’s up.”
8 Good Replies To “Hey”
Here are some examples you can use when a girl sends you “hey.”
Playful responses
“Hey trouble, how’s your night going”
“Hey what kind of trouble are you getting into tonight”
“Ah, i was waiting for you to message me ;)”
“Hey, you seem like my type ;)”
- “Hey. You seem suspiciously quiet today.”
These work because they break the predictable texting pattern.
Curious responses
6. “Hey, are you from here originally”
7. “Hey, can i be honest” (followed up by “you seem like my type”)
8. “Hey, im curious about something”
These create curiosity, which encourages her to reply.
What If She Only Sends Short Replies?
Sometimes a girl might send messages like:
“hey”
“lol”
“haha”
“yeah”
When this happens, the key is to playfully call her out.
Instead of asking more logical questions, try this text
“are you always this talkative?” or “a woman of few words i see”
If the girl is a complete time-waster, it won’t work (you can learn more about different types of girls here). However, if she does have some interestt in meeting, this will usually get her to invest more into the convo
What To Do If The Conversation Starts Dying
This can happen for a few reasons
1) you failed to move things towards the date
2) your texting was dull or boring
3) or it can be completely unrelated to you, maybe she had a bad date the night before or got fired from work
Either way, there are two things you can do. First, you can just change the topic. I would recommend first building up some curiosity with a text like “hey, im curious about something”. Then, when she asks you what that is, you can ask her an interesting question based on her profile.
Or you can just move things towards the date (especially if you have been chatting for a while already). Suprisingly a good way to do this when the convo is dying, is a simple “are you still interested in meeting up”
It prompts her to commit, then you can start setting up the date. And if you want to take your texting to the next level, check out my ultimate guide on how to text a girl
When AI Texting Tools Can Help
Even if you understand good texting principles, it can still be hard to know what to send in the moment. That’s where AI texting tools can help.
Tools like FireTexts analyze your conversation and generate reply suggestions designed to keep the interaction engaging and move things toward setting up a date.
For example, you can upload a screenshot of your conversation and get message suggestions based on the tone, context, and stage of the interaction.
This can be especially helpful when:
• a conversation is starting to die
• you’re unsure how to flirt without sounding awkward
• you want to move things toward setting up a date
If you ever find yourself staring at your phone wondering what to text next, FireTexts can help you send a better message every time.
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FAQ
What should I text after “hey”?
The best response to “hey” is something playful or curious that moves the conversation forward. Instead of replying with another greeting, introduce personality with a question or light teasing.
Is “hey what’s up” a bad reply?
It isn’t necessarily bad, but it often leads to boring conversations. Messages that create curiosity or playfulness usually get better responses.
Why do girls just say “hey”?
Sometimes girls send simple openers because they just simply don’t know what else to say. Women don’t really need to be interesting or witty on dating apps to get dates, but a guy does
What should you text after a boring opener?
If the opener is boring, introduce a playful topic or ask an interesting question. This helps break the small talk pattern and creates momentum.