5 Crucial Dating Tips For Men
In this article, I’m going to reveal the most important dating tips for men. There are several common mistakes guys are making on dating apps and over text that you need to avoid. This came directly from asking girls that I’ve hooked up with in the past. I analyzed all the times they’ve ever ghosted or flaked on someone and what was the underlying reason. Some universal themes regarding what causes a girl to ghost or flake began to emerge:
1) Boring Text Convo / Lack of Progression – Every girl I asked said that she can’t stand when a guy is always just saying things like “hey what’s up”, “hi how’s it going”, etc. This is also known as being a boring texter.
The girl will eventually get bored and write him off. The idea is that if he’s super boring over text then he’ll be super boring in real life. The most common reason for guys being boring over text, is that they’re worried about “fucking it up”. Thus, they avoid taking all social risks and just play it super safe (not a good strategy)
You want to do the opposite, fuck around, make some jokes, tease her, etc. Don’t just ask a bunch of random interview questions but actually go deep on a topic. For me that is either things related to travel/culture, my dog, or sex. The last being my favorite.
In addition, failing to progress the convo ties into this as well. Girls who are interested in actually meeting someone will eventually get bored if the guy always just chit chats and never moves things forward. Now of course, you don’t want to rush the date either. The right approach is somewhere in the middle: flirt, build some investment, and when you see she’s investing, go for the date (to learn more check out my how to to text a girl guide)
2) Unsolicited Dick Pics – Believe it or not, these are the norm for women when it comes to online dating (and dating in general). It’s not that a lot of chicks don’t appreciate a nice dick pic, it’s that they don’t appreciate an UNSOLICITED dick pic. A simple rule of thumb, if she asks to see your cock then send a dick pic. If not, then don’t.
Advanced Trick: If the convo is somewhat sexual you can utilize a “bulge pic”. For example, I might say “just finished a big workout, looking nice and jacked for our date” and the girl might respond with “show me”. In a situation like this, i might send her a selfie of me looking jacked with my shirt off, and it just so happens that she can see the outline of my dick. This is a much more subtle way of showing her your dick
3) Late Night Booty Call Attempts – This is also a universal one for women. Even the most Dtf chicks I talked to said that they typically get annoyed when a guy just hits them up at 2 am. It’s not that they don’t want to fuck, but it’s that this makes them feel like an afterthought (which if we’re being honest is usually the case in these situations).
Also, this doesn’t mean you can’t get late night booty calls from dating apps. If a girl matches with you at 2am and is being very receptive, you should try to get her over. However, if this is a girl you’ve been talking to, just hit her up earlier in the day/evening and make plans a bit ahead of time. For a girl you’ve never fucked, you’re much more likely to get her to meet you at 8pm then 2am.
4) Not Solidifying the date – A mistake guys make is that they can be too vague when they’re making plans with the girl. Example: While setting up the date for the weekend, the guy says “cool, let’s do this weekend”, but doesn’t give her an exact day/time/location.
Maybe, the guy is worried about coming off needy. However, a girl will interpret that as a guy not being that interested and might preemptively flake. This is unfortunately quite common. To avoid this, lean how to optimally set up a date.
You want to make concrete plans and always confirm the morning of. In addition, it’s good to send some kind of flirty reminder the night before as well. One i use is “pick out a cute outfit for tomorrow yet”
5. Neediness/ Getting Butthurt – A chick might be legitimately interested in a guy but gets busy with something, then she checks her phone and sees a dozen texts from him…and she immediately loses interest. The solution is to simply not be needy. Try to think how would Leonardo Dicaprio handle this situation. It’s quite unlikely that he would spend his day pacing around, blowing up one girl’s phone.
Getting butthurt is also a death sentence when it comes to dating. Girls said that if they sensed that the guy was getting butthurt, they would either ignore him or fuck with him a bit. This will typically manifest when a girl reschedules on a guy because of some last-minute “emergency” in her life (very common in 2025) and the guy takes it personally.
The solution is to simply not make a big deal out of it when a girl needs to reschedule or take anything she says personally. Think of it all like a game. Of course, if her flaking becomes a pattern, then you want to call it out in a non-butthurt way, like “if you’re too nervous, id understand”
Conclusion
Hopefully you guys enjoyed this breakdown. There are of course a lot more texting mistakes out there. If you want to take all the guess work out of texting girls and just have the perfect message generated for you, then check out FireTexts. It uses AI to give you the perfect text every time
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